Sex vs. Sick

Working the overnight shift and the fact that I mop the floors of the video rooms has already resulted in me getting the nickname Jizzmopper. Not that I mind this. You’d be surprised how quickly you get used to someone calling you Jizz.

I might have mentioned that Mankato doesn’t have a gay friendly bar or social hangout, so the video booths in the back serve as a pick-up location for the local gay community. Yes, this is pretty gross, but knowing that not all gays are sexual deviants, it really bothers me to think that this is only place a homosexual male feels they can go to meet other like-oriented males.

I brought this issue up with friends of mine in the Mankato State chapter of SAGE (Straights and Gays for Equality). We talked in depth about how sexual deviancy has clouded the public’s perspective of the gay community as a whole.

Simply put, the guy trying to suck off a stranger in the back of a porn store may be gay… but he’s also sick. Additionally, not every gay person is trying to commit anonymous sexual acts on a sticky, cum-filled floor in the back of a porn store.

It really got me thinking because working in an atmosphere where your main exposure to the gay community is chasing people pants-less out of the back of the store with a baseball bat doesn’t leave much opportunity to for non-bias. 

It would be like a border guard in Texas’ opinion of Hispanics.

Sex, in particular porn, is pleasurable and like all things that feel good, it can be addictive. I don’t think we should ban porn because of this any more than I think we should ban alcohol because some people are prone to alcoholism. I am very liberal on this subject and don’t think we should ban any drug. I also think that the only things that are obscene are those that actually hurt someone else.

It all comes down to personal responsibility. One could ask themselves, “Should I buy this $400 sex doll or should I instead use this money to set up an eHarmony account, meet a real person and develop a personality?” Most would agree that we shouldn’t put a law in place that would require people to spend their money on responsible activities, but this is exactly what “moral legislation” sounds like to me. In a capitalist system, that we all know and love, the government’s role should be to encourage economic activity, not limit and regulate it.

I like to think the majority of devices I sell are used to enhance a loving relationship and not as an attempt to fill a gaping void in someone’s soul… but I’ll never be sure. There’s no way we could actually test this and if a person wants to fill a… void with a molded-plastic device, carpe diem.

To be fair, I’d have these same questions rolling around my head if I worked at a liquor store or bakery (although I’d be suspicious of the customer who keeps buying birthday cakes for themselves.) Freedom includes freedom to destroy yourself by following an unhealthy lifestyle. This could be killing your body with drugs and alcohol or it could be practicing in an unsafe sexual lifestyle by meeting strangers who might infect you with something or knife your guts out.

But back to my main point, there’s a subset of the population that would like you to believe that every homosexual is a pervert, trying to have sex with you while spreading his or her lifestyle agenda. They point to places like this store as an example of why the homosexual lifestyle is evil and that our children must be protected. But the problem is that the freaks licking cum off the floor and giving each other handjobs under the dividers of a video booth are not anyone’s definition of normal. I would venture to guess that even the most seasoned hedonist would find this behavior dangerous, disgusting and scary. Even if you like the idea of having sex with strangers, unprotected sex with someone you’ve never met is downright stupid.

I hate being pigeonholed and don’t like to do it to other people. Saying that every gay person is mentally ill by the questionable lifestyle choices made by a tiny, perverted, section of the population is unfair. You might as well call every person who drinks alcohol a barfly.